This week during my reading and teaching sessions I noticed a theme going on with most of my clients. They suffered from that sweet syndrome of “Over-giver-itis.” Basically, they all enjoyed being of service to others outside of themselves. Nothing wrong with this at all, as long as they are making sure to take care of their own needs as well. That was the problem they were all asking about. “I am having difficulties with my relationship. Can you look at what is going on? I want to appreciate, love, and be gentle with my partner…but some how I find myself grumpy, irritated, or just plain exhausted when I am around them. I know I love them, so what is going on here?”
When I tuned into each of these clients, I saw a similiar theme. Each one had connected with another “giver” personality. Who could blame them? We givers are very loving, gentle, generous, and kind-hearted souls. However, when you have two givers in any relationship, one of the pitfalls to watch for is when both parties go out of balance with over giving.
Picture two loving drained exhausted souls with their empty happy mugs pointing to one another saying “My mug is empty. Fill it up please.” Since neither one is charged up, or taking care of their own needs it is impossible for this to happen. Two empty cups still equals two empty cups!
What can one do to assist their relationship to come in balance? First thing first, recognize and validate that you are both very generous and giving souls that are just experiencing a temporary out of balance feeling. Next, look at what each of you can do to assist yourselves into coming back into balance. Ask yourselves “what is it that I need to help fill up my joy mug so I can come into this relationship feeling more loving?” Finally, make sure to spend time with one another when you know you are going to have plenty of energy to share back and forth. Remember this is why you two got together in the first place: your over all generous Spirits.
For those of you who would like to hear more tips on finding balance in this busy world, be sure to check out Sunday, March 1’s The Joy Cafe radio show from 4pm – 5:30pm PST. The topic will be “Finding your Energetic Balance.” My cohost Echo Bodine will share her secrets of finding balance, and I’ll be sharing a couple of my energy techniques I use, as well. Don’t worry if you can’t catch it live, you can always listen to the archive here on the website to the left.
Bringing balance to a relationship when both parties are over givers.
This week during my reading and teaching sessions I noticed a theme going on with most of my clients. They suffered from that sweet syndrome of “Over-giver-itis.” Basically, they all enjoyed being of service to others outside of themselves. Nothing wrong with this at all, as long as they are making sure to take care of their own needs as well. That was the problem they were all asking about. “I am having difficulties with my relationship. Can you look at what is going on? I want to appreciate, love, and be gentle with my partner…but some how I find myself grumpy, irritated, or just plain exhausted when I am around them. I know I love them, so what is going on here?”
When I tuned into each of these clients, I saw a similiar theme. Each one had connected with another “giver” personality. Who could blame them? We givers are very loving, gentle, generous, and kind-hearted souls. However, when you have two givers in any relationship, one of the pitfalls to watch for is when both parties go out of balance with over giving.
Picture two loving drained exhausted souls with their empty happy mugs pointing to one another saying “My mug is empty. Fill it up please.” Since neither one is charged up, or taking care of their own needs it is impossible for this to happen. Two empty cups still equals two empty cups!
What can one do to assist their relationship to come in balance? First thing first, recognize and validate that you are both very generous and giving souls that are just experiencing a temporary out of balance feeling. Next, look at what each of you can do to assist yourselves into coming back into balance. Ask yourselves “what is it that I need to help fill up my joy mug so I can come into this relationship feeling more loving?” Finally, make sure to spend time with one another when you know you are going to have plenty of energy to share back and forth. Remember this is why you two got together in the first place: your over all generous Spirits.
For those of you who would like to hear more tips on finding balance in this busy world, be sure to check out Sunday, March 1’s The Joy Cafe radio show from 4pm – 5:30pm PST. The topic will be “Finding your Energetic Balance.” My cohost Echo Bodine will share her secrets of finding balance, and I’ll be sharing a couple of my energy techniques I use, as well. Don’t worry if you can’t catch it live, you can always listen to the archive here on the website to the left.